I have been enjoying this lifestyle for several years now and as I have progressed I have been able to unleash my sexual desires. So why do so many people who are nudist seem to be paranoid about any thought that this activity might lead to a sexual encounter?
I think there is a stigma in nudism when it comes to women enjoying feeling attractive. Like attracting the "wrong" kind of attention or being misconstrued as an exhibitionist. For those reasons some women abstain from being "too feminine."
My wife struggled with it for a time. But as she grew comfortable with her nakedness in social settings, becoming more outgoing and social; she got noticed. People found her charismatic and attractive; and the positive feedback she received made her all the more comfortable with being "admired." She even embraced the attention a few times, for example jumping once on a stage at the resort to model some nudist apparel that was being auctioned; I think she really enjoyed being up there, completely naked, in front of a crowd of admiring gazers.
That was about the time she started shaving and working out; and being ok with people noticing and bringing it up. She took being looked at more as a compliment than "sexual interest." She loved for her body to be appreciated as well. And I never saw anything wrong with it; as it made her happy and other nudists appreciated her presence all the more.
skystonesun72 Posted on Feb 04, 2012 at 10:32 AM
That said, though, I don't think there is any reason that social nudity can't or shouldn't be inclusive of erotica, if like-minded adults are mutually open to that aspect.
There is indeed a time and place for everything.
Before we moved, my wife and I made some nudist friends at our resort. This couple had a more "liberated" outlook on social nudity. Their philosophy matched ours, so we decided to hang out with them outside the resort. Our male friend found my wife very attractive, and I found our female friend very attractive as well; and we we quite open about it. When we hung out our interactions were much more "intimate" than what you would find at a resort. We didn't shy away from physical contact, giving each other full body hugs, massages and cuddles. Our level of playfulness would probably fall in the "erotic" category. For example my wife once jumped on our friend's lap and proceeded to squeeze his head between her breasts, smothering him with her boobs, after he'd cracked a joke about her "big 'uns." He'd also squeeze her butt all the time. My wife definitely enjoyed the flirtatiousness and compliments she got from our friend.
Likewise our female friend and I didn't subscribe to the notions of personal space you find at the nudist resort between friends. We cuddled a lot. And sometimes it got erotic. I remember one time we were lounging around at their place; our friend was sitting right next to me leaning against me. I naturally wrapped my arm around her. My wife, perhaps feeling left out, proceeded to come sit down on my other side. We started joking around; and that's when the two of them decided to "attack" me! I ended up with boobs in my face, in my hands as I tried to push them away; it was a total boob-fest - great fun but definitely also a tad erotic.
Although our interactions sometimes were erotically charged; they never really got sexual. We knew what our limitations were; and we were comfortable playing within them. Which made it all the more fun and natural for us.
I guess my point to this long post is that nudism is not "black and white." There are varying shades of grey between "uber conservative" nudism...and swinging. You don't have to subscribe to one or the other. But you do have to be conscious of the environment you're in, and other people's comfort levels. Our friends and I also went to the resort together,
and we "knew better" than to be intimate in a nudist family environment.
I love others to appreciate my all, can't understand if they don't, I'm there for all my friends!
I do love to be with others nude and should this lead to a more personal encounter
I believe this to be fully natural.
We all should be comfortable with how we look and how any others view us too.
Friends should be with each other to mutually please anyway!
I have always thought that there is a happy middle ground, on this particular topic. Of course, at least a small part of the reason we all enjoy nudity is the mutual appreciation of our bodies, and the freedom to enjoy those feelings in a comfortable and casual setting. The main thing, though, is to KEEP the atmosphere comfortable. And that means recognizing that there is a firm line to be held between enjoying feelings of sensuality or mild eroticism, versus invading someone's space with unwanted advances or activity--i.e., actual sexual or lewd activity simply has to be avoided. That said, though, I don't think there is any reason that social nudity can't or shouldn't be inclusive of erotica, if like-minded adults are mutually open to that aspect. Just like in daily life, our sexuality is part of us and not simply "separable" from us, like an on/off switch. I don't think there is any question that nudity IS (at least somewhat) sexy, but at the same time--like anything else in life--the experience of social nudity is most certainly not ALL about sex. It's just a small part of the equation.
Most of the time [with the exception of when I'm at a nude resort] being nude is the 1st step to a sexual encounter. I mean, isn't that the way it's supposed to work. Opposite sexes were meant to be aroused when seen nude or watching other nudes.
This has been very interesting discussion, and from observing this and another site, as well as talkng to few people, I agree with Rick_zoom--some nudists are just not interested in playing with anyone, while others are open to it. I say we respect their needs and limits and just enjoy being nude.
I came to this site to search for that woman who share the nudism/naturalist values of being accepting, open-minded and not bothering with pesky clothes, as well as other common interests (just like in most serious relationships. I'm not the swinger type, but wouldn't say no if it feels right.
Yes, some places get a bit too rigid, but I think it's mostly because of the family part, as well as trying to maintain the public perception that nudism isn't sex (even though a subset of nudists are also swinging, and we know that among ourselves).
So just live and let live and respect everyone's needs and boundaries. :)
Most nudist clubs are naturist (family-oriented) clubs. So all sex is to be in private & "trolling" is discouraged. It does make it difficult for singles and others who enjoy sensual / ... moments or just looking for a relationship.
i think people get carried away with the correct response.
i came here looking for something different.i love sex,i love the naked female body, i think it is beautiful.
i'm not here looking for sex, but if your turn me on,so be it.
so i see nothing wrong with that.i spend alot of my indoor time nude
its so hot here in ohio right now,no clothes,fan on,pecking away at the computer.i really like your picture,thanks
i think this message will be okay.or at least i hope so
Nudists are far more open-minded and free-spirited than most.
That does not mean that nudism and sexuality are equated, and many people who enjoy social nudism do want the simple relaxation of social nudity without the complications of sex mixed in.
Still, if you spend any time at nudist resorts and clubs, even though the AANR disavows any connection of nudity to sexuality, there is always an undercurrent of sexuality. At night when the children (if there are any) are put to bed the adults will play.
It's only natural as adults spend time together naked in adult social situations that there will be sexual play and more.
The question becomes, how does a responsible mature adult handle the fact of sexual attraction and instinct in a social nudist venue? What is proper and correct? What is in everyone's best interest? Should there be common boundaries and restraints?
It seems really weird to me that a lot of nudist pretend that nudism and sex are not compatable.¿ To me both are completly natural and go hand in had.¿ Dex is health but you just have to keep it under control and not let it get out of hand.
Hello Extrema, Steve Nelson Here. I'd say from the 2 pics I've seen you are nicely curvy! Not too bad!! Yes very nice!!!
I have similar thoughts about nudist sites, though I have not spent much time at a resort, mostly at home, I've felt a certain Paronioa about these sites too.
Example, I wrote a book this year all abou a group of people in the future that live entirely naked. They are Genetically Engineered to Love Sex, Healthy living and learning. I thought that my book would be greatfully recieved by the nudist community because it celebrates being nude and Sex Which Is Just Natural.
But there is some bit of over worry in this type of community. Maybe it's because there are some who can't relinquish old authoritarian religiuos beliefs in favor of more enlightened ideas of being nude socially. It seemas like some are a bunch of Bible thumpers #1 and Nudists a distant #6 or 8.
Like the cookie factory that my suposed wife works at, They are extremly Paraniod about somebodystealing their cookie recipe. Heck it's like a Government Classified area 51 at the factory. Swipe cards, 'No Unathorized Access without a Corporate Esscort' signs everywhere. It's silly. Anybody can buy a box and break them down chemically.
But hey, since my mug is so ugly I'd break a steel plated mirror, here's a pic of the Lovely Female401E featured on the nice Cover Art of my new book.
Great to see ya Extrema, would like to see more, Steve Nelson
if naturist beaches would be places where people have public sex i would not any longer go there - but maybe that?s not what extrema means ...
for me sexual intercourse should happen when 2 persons are alone, it?s something very private - thats one of the things that make a difference between human beings and animals.
there are tribes, where people go naked or nearly naked all the time - but they, so far as i know, DON
T habe sexual intercourse in public, and they have monogamy.
there IS a difference between naturism and "sexual liberation" - and RULES on naturist beaches MAKE sense ! i like to see families there, children playing, - and not pornos ! (in fact, I?ve watched more PORNO LIKE scenes in "normal" swimming areas than naturist beaches ... "sex with bikini and bathing trunks")
but I agree that people (I also not) do not go blindfolded at naturist areas - and that naturism goes together, hand in hand, with a POSITIVE attitude towards body and sexuality in general.